See It Through Their Eyes: Why Empathy Matters

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Have you ever had someone really get what you were going through—not just listen, but actually feel it with you? That moment of connection? That’s empathy in action.

Empathy is more than just being nice or saying, “That sucks.” It’s the ability to step into someone else’s shoes and understand their feelings, even if you haven’t been through the exact same thing. And in relationships—whether it’s with friends, family, or someone you’re into—empathy is what turns regular connection into something real and meaningful.

In this post, we’re breaking down what empathy really is, why it matters so much, and how you can bring more of it into your everyday conversations and connections.

So, What Is Empathy Really?

Empathy means you don’t just hear someone—you feel with them. There are two main kinds:

  • Cognitive empathy – You understand what someone else is feeling or thinking.

  • Emotional empathy – You actually feel some of what they’re feeling.

It’s like emotional WiFi—you’re picking up on someone else’s vibe, even if they don’t say much. When you get it right, it shows that you care in a real, respectful way.

Why Empathy Matters In Relationships

It Builds Trust
When someone feels understood, they feel safe. And when people feel safe, they open up more. That’s how strong relationships form—through trust built on empathy.

  1. It Helps You Respond, Not React
    If someone’s upset or having a hard time, empathy helps you respond in a way that supports them—rather than snapping back, judging, or brushing it off.

  2. It Stops Misunderstandings Before They Start
    A lot of drama happens when people don’t feel heard. Empathy helps you understand where someone’s coming from before jumping to conclusions.

  3. It Makes You a Better Friend, Partner, or Sibling
    People remember how you make them feel. When you show empathy, you're creating space for others to be real with you—and that’s something everyone values.

How To Be More Empathetic

Really Listen (Not Just Wait to Talk)
Put your phone down. Make eye contact. Don’t interrupt. Just listen. Sometimes, that’s all someone needs.

  1. Ask How They’re Feeling (Then Actually Care)
    “Are you okay?” is a great question—but so is, “What do you need right now?” or “That sounds rough—want to talk more about it?”

  2. Don’t Try to “Fix” Everything
    Sometimes people just need to vent. You don’t need all the answers—just being there and showing you care is powerful.

  3. Try to Imagine Their Experience
    Even if you haven’t been through what they have, you can still try to relate. Think: How would I feel in that situation?

  4. Watch for the Quiet Stuff
    Empathy isn’t just about words. Body language, tone, and energy all give clues about how someone’s doing. Pay attention to the small signs.

Final Thought

Empathy doesn’t mean you have to carry everyone’s feelings or always know the perfect thing to say. It just means showing up, being present, and trying to understand. That effort—no matter how small—can completely change how someone feels in a moment.

So the next time someone shares something with you, big or small, pause for a second. Try to see it through their eyes. A little empathy goes a long way—and it just might be what turns a regular chat into a meaningful connection.

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