Let Someone In: How to Talk About Your Depression
Talking about depression can feel overwhelming. Maybe you're worried people won’t understand, or that saying the words out loud will make everything too real. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself you should be able to handle it on your own. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to.
Opening up about depression is a brave and important step toward feeling better. It doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you’re strong enough to recognise that support matters. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a teacher, or a counsellor, letting someone in can help lighten the load you’ve been carrying in silence. You deserve to be heard, and you don’t have to go through this alone.
Why It’s So Hard To Talk About
Depression often tells you to stay quiet. It can make you feel ashamed, embarrassed, or like you’ll be a burden to others. You might fear judgment or worry that people won’t take you seriously. But the truth is, most people care more than you realise—they just don’t always know what’s going on unless you tell them.
Staying silent might seem easier, but it can make things feel heavier over time. Speaking up doesn’t make your feelings worse—it opens the door to support, understanding, and healing.
Who Should You Talk To
You don’t have to tell everyone. Start with one person you trust. It could be:
A close friend who really listens
A parent, sibling, or other family member
A teacher or school counselor
A coach, mentor, or youth worker
A mental health professional
Pick someone who has shown they care, even in small ways. The goal isn’t to find someone who can “fix” it—but someone who can be there for you.
What Should You Say
You don’t need to have perfect words. You might say something like:
“I’ve been feeling really down lately, and I think I need someone to talk to.”
“I’m struggling with depression, and I don’t know what to do.”
“Can I talk to you about something that’s been hard for me?”
It’s okay if you cry. It’s okay if you pause or don’t know exactly what to say. The most important part is just starting.
What Can You Expect
Everyone reacts differently. Some people will respond with comfort and care right away. Others might not fully understand at first—and that’s okay. Give them a little time. What matters is that you’ve started the conversation.
If someone doesn’t respond the way you hoped, don’t give up. That doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid. Keep reaching out. There are people out there who will get it—and who will help.
What If You’re Not Ready To Talk In Person
That’s okay too. You can write a letter or a text message. Sometimes putting your thoughts down on paper helps you feel more in control. You could say, “There’s something I’ve been struggling with, and I find it hard to say out loud. Can we talk about it sometime?”
Final Thought
Talking about depression isn’t easy—but it’s one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. You deserve support, compassion, and understanding. Letting someone in is a step toward healing, and it proves something really important: that your pain matters, and so do you.
You're not alone. And you never have to be.
Even though 1 in 4 people have mental health problems, most of us don’t get the help we need. This has to change. We’re Mind. We’re here to fight for mental health. For support, for respect, for you.
